262 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend to Get to Know Her Better

Asking thoughtful, interesting questions is the foundation of any relationship, and that's especially true when it comes to the best questions to ask your girlfriend. There's maybe no better way to get to know your romantic partner than hearing how they respond to both silly questions and more deep, detailed ones. Good questions show you're paying attention, and attention is the best gift you can give in any kind of relationship.

You might have a new girlfriend, or a woman you want to be your girlfriend, or a girlfriend of many years—the longevity of the relationship doesn't really matter. You can ask lighthearted questions to a longtime lover or more introspective ones to a budding crush. These questions can be valuable conversation starters on first dates or romantic vacations or standing in line at the DMV. (On that note, need some date ideas?) It's extremely normal and healthy to ask questions at all stages of a relationship. They show you're committed and actually care about how someone you love's mind works.

Below, we rounded up 262 questions to ask your girlfriend, from deep questions that’ll take your relationship to the next level to fun questions that’ll pass the time as you drive to Target and everything in between.

1. Who is your role model and why?
2. What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made?
3. What makes you the happiest version of yourself?
4. What do you want your future to look like?
5. How do you define success?
6. Does the idea of getting older scare you?
7. What was your childhood like?
8. What do you do when you’re stressed?
9. Where is your happy place?
10. What’s your biggest fear and have you ever faced it?
11. What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
12. Is there anything you’re too afraid to try?
13. Do you have a favorite childhood memory?
14. What do you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?
15. What do you wish people knew about you?
16. What do you think love is?
17. Is there a question you’ve always wanted to ask me?
18. What’s the most surprising or conversation you’ve had with a stranger?
19. What’s something you learned early on in life that you don’t think other people usually do?
20. What’s your best relationship advice?
21. Are you comfortable telling people when they do something offensive?
22. What do your parents expect of your partner?
23. What makes you feel safe?
24. Who are you closest to?
25. How do you show appreciation for people?
26. What’s your relationship like with your parents?
27. When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?
28. Do you have any regrets?
29. What’s the hardest goodbye you’ve ever said?
30. What’s your biggest insecurity?
31. How do you want to be remembered after you die?
32. How do you think you'll die?
33. Does dying scare you?
34. Have you ever seen anyone die?
35. Do you consider yourself to be spiritual?
36. Why did your last relationship end?
37. Do you ever wish you could change something you did in the past?
38. What should I look for to know when you’re not feeling your best?
39. When do you feel the happiest?
40. How do you normally express anger or displeasure?
41. Do you prefer to fight over text or in person?
42. What does friendship mean to you?
43. Have you ever disliked someone your friend or family member was dating?

1. What’s your love language?
2. When did you know you wanted to be in a relationship with me?
3. Do you think people were “made for each other”?
4. What’s your guilty pleasure?
5. What is the most attractive thing someone can do, in your opinion?
6. What’s your favorite date night movie?
7. How do big displays of affection make you feel?
8. What is your favorite love song?
9. What does your ideal date look like?
10. What’s your favorite memory of us?
11. If you do, what does your dream wedding look like?
12. Do you prefer fancy date nights or casual nights out?
13. Is there a song that reminds you of us?
14. When do you feel the most beautiful?
15. What’s your favorite type of kiss?
16. What do I do that makes you smile?
17. How do you describe me to your friends?
18. What’s something I used to do that you miss?
19. What does falling in love feel like to you?
20. What’s the first thing you thought when we met?
21. What does romance mean to you?
22. How would you tell our love story?
23. What’s your communication style?
24. What could I be doing better to express my love to you?
25. What do you value most in a relationship?
26. What fictional couple do you idolize?
27. What three adjectives describe you as a girlfriend?
28. When you’re having a bad day, what can I do to help turn it around?
29. Do you believe in soul mates?
30. What do I do that makes you laugh?
31. What is your first memory of me?
32. When did you realize you first started to fall for me?
33. How can I make you feel loved every day?
34. What’s your favorite date that we’ve been on?
35. What’s the most memorable thing I’ve ever done for you?

1. How do you see our future playing out?
2. What is your favorite part of our relationship? And least favorite?
3. What do you want to do when you’re older?
4. Is there anything you would have changed about your childhood?
5. Does anything give you an instant headache?
6. Have you ever run away from a situation? What did that look like?
7. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose?
8. What are your physical and emotional boundaries?
9. Are there any signs that I’ll be able to see when you aren’t feeling well?
10. What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
11. How do you burn off steam?
12. What are your political views?
13. Are there any qualities you seek out in friends?
14. Who has shaped your life in the most significant way?
15. How do you define a strong relationship?
16. What is the biggest compliment I could give you?
17. What do you love about your life?
18. What kinds of social situations make you anxious?
19. How do you like to be cheered up or comforted?
20. Do you think we spend enough time together?
21. What is the toughest part of your life right now?
22. Do you like hanging out with my friends?
23. How important is family to you?
24. Do I hold you back from anything?
25. Do you believe in luck?
26. Is being smart or being kind more important to you?
27. Do you believe in marriage?
28. Do you see yourself getting married?
29. Do you ever see yourself having children?
30. How would your ex(es) describe you?
31. Are you in therapy?
32. What are some non-sexual forms of intimacy that you enjoy?
33. Would you give up your dreams for love?
34. Would you ever want to live in a different city?
35. Would you ever move to a different city for love?
36. When do you think it’s time to break up with someone?
37. What are your boundaries when it comes to relationships?
38. What are your go-to coping mechanisms for stress?
39. What’s the most memorable conversation you’ve ever had?
40. What’s something you want to improve about yourself?
41. Do you listen to podcasts?
42. Do you consider yourself a good person?

Reserve these for new relationships, moments that need a little levity, and random lulls in conversation. (These are also super fun to ask your BFFs!)

1. What does your perfect day look like?
2. If you could swap lives with anyone, who would it be and why?
3. What does your dream home look like?
4. If you could paint a room any color, which one would you choose?
5. What’s your coffee order?
6. How would you spend a million dollars?
7. What is on your bucket list?
8. What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?
9. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
10. If you could live in a TV show, which one would you choose?
11. Do you have a favorite holiday?
12. What do you think should be a holiday that currently isn’t?
13. Could you set a world record for anything?
14. What’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever eaten?
15. Is there anything you absolutely will not eat?
16. If you were a pizza topping, which one would you be?
17. If you could have any kind of pet, what would you choose?
18. Do you have a favorite movie quote?
19. Do you wear slippers at home?
20. What’s your least favorite song?
21. What is one phrase you wish people would stop using?
22. Was there one cartoon you were obsessed with growing up?
23. Who would narrate an audio book about your life?
24. Do you prefer matching things or pattern mixing?
25. If you could eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
26. Do you believe in ghosts or aliens?
27. What’s the weirdest conspiracy you believe in and why?
28. If you were an ice cream flavor, which would you be and why?
29. Would you rather have a personal chef, personal chauffeur, or personal cleaner?
30. What would be the soundtrack to your life?
31. Would you still love me if I was a worm?
32. What’s your favorite memory of us?
33. Who inspires you right now?
34. If you could make a movie, what would it be?
35. If you were an animal, which would you be and why?
36. If you could be really good at one thing, what would it be any why?
37. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
38. What’s your go-to karaoke song?
39. What’s your dream date?
40. If you could have dinner with anyone alive or dead, who would it be and why?
41. Would you rather lose a finger or a toe?
42. What type of cheese are you, if you were a cheese?
43. Baseball hat or sunglasses?

1. What would your superhero name be?
2. What’s your favorite flower?
3. Physical books or audio books?
4. Spontaneous gifts or only for big celebrations/moments?
5. What’s your favorite book of all time?
6. What’s your favorite special occasion meal?
7. If you wrote a book, what would the topic be?
8. Are there any songs you know every single word to?
9. Cats or dogs?
10. What’s your favorite karaoke song?
11. What are your favorite things to do with friends?
12. Which animal would you be?
13. Have you ever faked sick and stayed home from school?
14. Do you have a middle name and is there a story behind it?
15. How do you like to relax at night?
16. Night owl or early bird?
17. What is your ideal breakfast order?
18. What song do you listen to the most often?
19. What’s something your friends think is fun but you really don’t?
20. Indoor or outdoor activities?
21. Do you have a favorite scent?
22. Who do you think your celebrity doppelgänger is?
23. Do you have a favorite nickname?
24. What was your worst haircut?
25. Which Disney princess did you love most growing up?
26. What’s your favorite childhood movie?
27. Would you survive a zombie apocalypse?
28. If you won $100,000 tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d buy?
29. What’s your dream vacation?
30. Who would you pick to play you in a movie version of your life?
31. Are you a cat person or a dog person?
32. Who was your celebrity crush growing up?
33. What’s your favorite board game?
34. What’s a random topic you secretly know everything about?
35. What’s the weirdest fact you know?
36. Do you think hot dogs are a sandwich?
37. What’s something you love to cook?
38. What’s one dance you wish you knew?
39. What’s your go-to order at the movie theater?
40. What’s your ideal Friday night?
41. What's your favorite photo of yourself?
42. What's your favorite comfort snack?

1. What's your favorite childhood book?
2. Favorite song to dance to?
3. Which hockey romance would you want to star in?
4. What show did you binge watch most recently?
5. Favorite book couple?
6. Off Campus or Heated Rivalry?
7. Last movie that made you cry?
8. If you could attend any magical or fantastical school, which would you choose?
9. What's your favorite book series?
10. Which show have you rewatched the most?
11. Which Spiderman is the best Spiderman?
12. Who should leave the Khia asylum next?
13. What's your favorite K-pop song?
14. Who should win Best New Artist at this year's Grammys?
15. Who is the defining songwriter of the 2000s?
16. What's your favorite meme?
17. What's your favorite Vine?
18. What song pumps you up?
19. What's your favorite music genre?
20. Wired headphones or Bluetooth?

1. Who is the first person you ever had a crush on?
2. What's a pickup line that swept you off your feet?
3. What's a song that makes you think of me?
4. Have you ever asked out a stranger?
5. What's your code of ethics on PDA?
6. What's a move you saw in a movie that would work on you?
7. Who's your hall pass?
8. Who's the first celebrity you fantasized about?
9. What scent is most attractive to you?
10. What's your favorite item of clothing that I wear?
11. Have you ever had a sex dream?
12. What is something you want to try but you've been to nervous to talk to me about?
13. Physical touch or words of affirmation?
14. What do you think is the most romantic city?
15. Night in or night out?
16. Sneakiest hookup location?
17. What's your favorite romantic trope?

This or That Questions

1. Fancy restaurant or home-cooked meal?
2. Candles or rose petals?
3. Netflix and chill or movie theater makeout?
4. Conrad or Jeremiah?
5. Sweet or Salty?
6. Week by week episodic release or binge watch?
7. Night owl or early bird?
8. Edward or Jacob?
9. Shane or Ilya?
10. '90s style or Y2K style?
11. Coke or Pepsi?
12. Tap water or sparkling?
13. Gourmand perfumes or skin scents?
14. Coffee or matcha?
15. Minimalist or maximalist?
16. Texting or calling?
17. Group project or solo presentation?
18. Public gesture or private confession?
19. Humanities or STEM?
20. Handwritten note or sending TikToks?